Double Booked

Being double booked is a single girls happiness. Two hot dates in one day! Yeah, but you have to be good at it. You have to plan appropriately, ensuring that nothing occurs to mess the great day up.

Timing is important. You want to make the second date with the guy you want to spend the most time with. The first one can not be attention and time stingy as the date may begin to linger and possibly effect the time prep for the second date.

Outfit prep is also key. You gotta know where your going on both dates. The outfit must be able to accommodate both events. Don't want to be under or over dressed for either date, but dressed cute enough to make your date feel special. And tip from my daughter, yep the 13 year old. You may wanna bring an additional top to change into-just in case the 1st date is wearing cologne and happens to leave a lingering smell of his scent. Your second date would hate to smell your first date. LOL-she's too cute...a dive in the making.

Communication can be tricky. Confirm all details prior to each date. Texting and chatting during the date is inappropriate date etiquette...again making the date that you're currently on feel special is whats important. And unless your a big eater like me, decide which date you want to eat a full course meal.

Yep, 2 dates in one day...Let the fun begin. Gotta go my 1st date is in 30 minutes ;).

Emotional Sex

I had a friend tell me recently that the sex was so good it made her cry. I shared that she was not alone. I've had similar sex situations. But what is the crying really about.....

I've cried because...OH YES!!!!! It was absolutely mind blowing. I had no control of anything at some point and then I realized that tears were running down my face. Was it really that good or was it some deeper emotion behind the tears....like DAMN, this is the LAST time sex, why dose he cheat on me sex, the I've missed you and this right here (this shit right here) sex, the long time no see sex, and of course the make-up sex.

But, isn't that actually an oximoron? Should you really be crying during sex? Sex releases indorphins and adrenaline into your body during sex-so what the hell is going on with our minds that we over ride the pleasure sensations and crying begins. Additionally, Isn't that kinda weird, that not only tears are running down your face your nose will also begin to run and you'll have to start sniffling to try and control it. That's way too much going on.

Damn, emotional sex. I'd much rather the sex that knocks me out-sleep immidetaialy after. Or the non commital sex that allows me to dap him up and say "Thanks, same time same place-next week". Because if I'm crying, then I love and am in love with him and that's a whole nother blog for a whole nother day.......

Do I like Girls?

Hmmmmmm, so it's Friday. What kinda of trouble could I get into tonight? There's always the club, for dancing. Maybe a lounge for having a cocktail? Dinner with friends or a friend. And sense I'm thinking trouble a movie is out. I want a little bit more excitement. I think I'll call one of my friends and suggest the strip club. More specifically, one of my guy friends...

So, just because I like girl strippers does that mean I like girls? Some would argue yes, but I beg to differ. There is something a little wrong with men tieing things around their penis' to maintain their erections during their performance. Further, I've never thought watching their penis's swinging back and forth like soap on a rope was sexy. Yeah, their suave moves and pelvic thrust can be a little stimulating. Their bodies are typically really nice so their ability to pick up the biggest girl in the room can be pretty impressive, but ho hum. That gets old. AND, I think a large percentage of them are actually homosexuals.

Now on the other hand, women exotic dancers are just that-exotic. They are much more creative, more sensual and shit sexy. They also have some pretty nice bodies-some bought and some work out to maintain, but sexy none the less. And yeah, there are some of them out there that should have quit along time ago-as they have lost their attrait sexuel!, but hey I'm sure it still pays the bills. And I don't see nothing wrong with acknowledging another womans beauty and or sexuality. I'm quite confident in myself. May even learn a few moves.

I also think going to the strip club with your significant other can be kinda fun. You talk about the crowd, the dancers, watch your man flirt alittle, maybe even flirt alittle yourself and then take all that excitement home. Yeah, GENTLEMAN'S clubs are just better!

YEAHHHH....Gonna go call my boy, we're gonna make it rain tonight.

Wax Much?!

Remember that scene in Sex in the City when Samantha glanced over and saw a bush growing from Miranda's crotch? Ok, yeah...true story! A very good friend of mine (& when you read this you know I LOVE you!!!) Has (well since the incident I believe she has taken care of the issue, or at least hope so!) Had a forest growing from her crotch!!! It is or was ridiculous (i pray she's taken care of it)!!! And this is the same chic that boast about keeping it tidy down there and that her man has to as well. If he doesn't he needs to conform. Additionally, at some point made me reconsider my own personal hygiene habits, of waxing.

So when I saw the rain forest running down her legs. I had to say something. Only a really good friend would. I mean, I wasn't trying to look that direction. I don't typically just look at womens' crotches (unless I'm at the strip club, but I digress) But when the Goonie GOO GOO came out the shower and decided to air dry. I couldn't help to not only notice, look, but stare in awwh-that she had an entire wooded area between her legs. How could I allow her to continue to let herself go about like that. How could she let it get so bad?! And further WHY?!

Ok so, I know she hadn't been in a sexual relationship in awhile, But DAAAYYYYYUUUUUMMMMM!!!! It had to be stopped. Whether in a relationship or not. It must be done for self preservation! It is not acceptable to plant your own trees about. And Further, men... I must implore you to do the same! Additionally, when sending photos of your little man; while you may be proud...please consider ensuring that a jungle does not lie beneath.

We must keep is sexy! Not just for them, but for ourselves!!!!!

We all Need Therapy

I actually went to school to become a Dr. To become a psychologist (the other ones prescribe medicine-that's too much responsibility). So I get and understand the importance of talking to someone about your issues. But not just anyone, a trained professional, who can give you real and unbiased feedback.

So, after numerous life crisis...divorce, serious life threatening surgery, unemployment and depression I couldn't pretend to be that strong woman I always portrayed to everybody. I needed a therapist! And needed one quickly or things were only going to get worst...

And I learned...Yep, you guessed it. My ass is CRAZY-like the rest of us. Oh, but it's perfectly normal, so my therapist says. And yep, it's all my mother and fathers fault. Damn parents. LOL.

No but really, I've learned a lot about myself and am growing mentally and emotionally with each session. I would recommend it to everybody. Life brings challenges and we can't always handle them all.

Shit, we all need therapy!

Just thought I'd ask

For several years now, I've had e-mail chats with friends about various dating, relationship, all types of sex topics and more stuff. A lot of them sparked interesting conversations.

So, I thought I would throw a few of those topics out there to see if it catches the attention of any of my readers. Feel free to comment as, some may like your responses to the topics-for I am not all knowing of the sex and/or relationships. I myself am currently single and practicing celibacy-and NOT by choice. But I sure like to talk about it....

-Dating your EX...Good idea bad idea?
I say do what makes you happy, but know the consequences and don't be mad at yourself in the morning.

-To fetish or to be prudish?
Depends on the fetish...I may like it

-To wax or not to wax
I say just keep it tidy. No one wants to be in someones messy kitchen

-What is the proper way to approach oral sex. How does a man or woman ask for oral sex without just assuming that the other person is willing to provide the service.
Hmmmmm, I guess I like it as much as the next girl. But you can't just do that to every body. Gotta watch for hygiene patterns.

-Swinging, it's just not for playgrounds anymore.
I say, whatever keeps the momentum going in the relationship. And if you both like it then go for it. I mean they have conventions......

-Role playing?
I've never done it, but I'm willing to try, I like dressing up.

Well those are just a few of those kinds of topics. Let me know what you think. I could go on for days...maybe one of the topics catches your eye and wanna comment. Or would like me to explore the topic further.....

Decision Making

So, I'm just getting home from what was a required meeting for my son's school. It was for parents and their teens to discuss teen driving responsibility and mostly drugs and alcohol.

I'm more than confident that my son is far from the pressures of drugs and alcohol. Saying "no" is not a problem for him. My fear is the driving. The percentage of car accidents which were caused by or included teens is vast. The numbers are alarming. I'm sure that my son is and will be a safe driver but it's the other idiots on the road that I'm worried about.

But the meeting's real focus was on teens-drinking and driving. More than 75% of the students said they wouldn't drink, but would be the designated driver for their friends. Wait, hold on...so my first concern is. The students have friends that drink?! None of the parents were concerned with that part of the scenario. Wow!!! I wanted to discuss that further. But instead, we discussed being sure that they called home to say they would be late for curfew, oh and by the way I'm also driving my drunk ass friends home. WTF?!?!!? The consequences behind a). and Number 1....getting stopped by the police!!! then b). driving past curfew. c). driving with drunk teens in the car. So, hmmmm why were we not discussing the foundation of telling the students not to drink at all. Moreover, that if there is drinking at the party they need to bring/take their asses home? So the ramifications....a). and Number 1...the designated driver looses his license (from 6mths-1 year) and has to attend classes, possible community service, oh and receive fines for each drunk ass friend in the car. Oh, and the friends receive citations as well. Also possible rejection from a preferred college they wanted to attend. And last but not least, the inability to say no I've never been arrested on ANY application.

So, why was it OK to let the majority of students in the room agree to be the designated driver, regardless of the consequences? Why weren't we more focused on our children's decision making of who their friends are and what they do at parties. Guess our priorities and values are just different.

Well, I said my peace but that turned into the parents being content with their children communicating with them about drinking-being and getting drunk. WTF!!!

So now, I just pray that my son decides to stay away from their children.......