Maintaining the Entertaining

The definition(s) for maintain are 1. to keep in existence or continuance; preserve; retain, or 2. to keep or hold. And there are numerous definitions for entertain 1. to hold the attention of pleasantly or agreeably; amuse, 2. show hospitality to. 3. to admit into the mind; consider, 4. to hold in the mind; harbor; cherish.

So when putting all of the contextual definitions together and apply them to real life scenarios a number of definitions work. Like, to keep in existence to hold the attention of pleasantly or agreeably. Or another definition would be to keep, hold, or sustain to cherish. Equals this working sentence...He maintains (keeps in existence, or continues to preserve, retains) relationships with other women to entertain (hold the attention or show hospitality or cherish). HMMMMM, makes me think!

Why the hell do men continue to maintain and entertain women that they say they are not involved with?! And maybe I'm not being fair, I suppose women do it too, so I'll rephrase the following....Why maintain these relationships, i.e hold on to these women/men? Why continue to communicate, i.e entertain the bullshit.

Maintaining the Entertaining?!

It makes no sense. These relationships seem to linger because, I think the need to keep options open comforts some. I think games are played-of keeping nice...via text, e-mail, instant messaging etc. in the event of future opportunities for... I just don't think they are healthy for current relationships. Are these conversations or by chance meetings neccessary? Do these people mean that much, that any form of communication keeps the realtionship alive?

Women love such attention and if we're getting it from someone we use to be involved with, it makes it just that more special. So, to maintain communication or maintain any types of relationship with her/him I think is dangerous.

Someone once told me that entertaining leads to sex. I never thought that before and that may have been the intentions of the guys that I would chat with but never my thoughts. I just liked the communication. However, I do know that if I ever wanted to sleep with any of my random guy friends that I maintain entertainment with, they would surely oblige. So, what makes sense to me...is to not maintain the entertainment...

All in 1 room...

OOOOOH My GEEEEEE,
So, last week was my daughters birthday. Because I'm an awesome party planner, she always has the best parties. This year was no exception. But her party isn't the issue of the blog today, it's who was at the party that I need to share......

I think I handled it well and everyone seemed to have been on their best behavior. But it was definitely tense with us all in 1 room... My ex husband felt the need to come. I guess to be there for his daughters birthday. However, he paid for NOTHING! Absolutely not a damn thing. He couldn't even help out on the pizza. DEAD beat!!! And he brought his girlfriend....Yep! So, she was completely uncomfortable, and barely said 2 words all night. I was annoyed with this behavior. I was more than pleasant! I offered her food, drinks and even complimented her on her damn boots (twice! You know I like shoes) and still nothing. I couldn't believe her inability to at least be a little social, if not to me than the other ladies that were helping me out with the more than 20+ teenage girls. She watched me like a hawk. She really didn't get the memo, that I really don't want my ex anymore. Nor did she get the memo, that he still wants me and it's him that she needs and needed to watch. Oh and of course, my ex in his truest of forms...tried, mentioned and joked about sneaking around the corner for a quickie....
UNPHUCKINGBELIEVABLE!!!!(ANNOYED AND EYES ROLLING!!!)I would NEVER!!! I'm so and have been over him. He really doesn't get it that I didn't like having sex with him then and KNOW for a fact that I wouldn't like it NOW!!!! So I won't ever consider such actions. His joke was not a bit funny.

But moving on...

And then there was my guy friend. But he was welcome and invited! Well, he had to be there! He was the photographer for the event oh and did I mention that HE WAS paying for everything!!! Yeah, so.... The audacity of my ex husband to come empty handed and with his anti-social, unhelpful and rude ass girlfriend, pissed me off. However, my guy friend acted like it was cool, but later I learned that he was annoyed by my exes nonchalant attitude of being the dad, getting the "daddy recognition" from everyone but hadn't contributed a thing. I couldn't blame him.

We weren't all drunk....that wouldn't have been good. But we all did have shots through out the night.

I couldn't wait for it to be over. For every one to leave and I could just host my daughter's sleep over with out ex/new love drama.... I was so stressed out and couldn't get drunk-What kind of supervision would that have been?

But it finally happened and now it's over...we were all in 1 room.